"A hole is a hole is a hole." - He knows

One of my favorite quotes. Coming from a man who never waxes poetic, this is huge. It sprung from a discussion about fidelity. Well, not really a discussion, more along the lines of pillow talk. When you have been married for over 20 years and have two small children, pillow talk and morning coffee chat take the place of discussions for a stretch. But I digress. 


He explained there were two main reasons why he would never cheat on me. One is that he could never live with the guilt, and two was "a hole is a hole is a hole." 


Do these seem contradictory to you? Isn't it either one, or the other? How can it be both? In other words, the guilt is the byproduct of the cheating, so it is not the physical act that deters you, but the consequences of it. That I get, since in my world to be so attracted to another that I would have sex with him would involve attraction on many levels, not just physical. Caving to my desire would mean to me that I have a serious problem with strength of my marriage commitment and would leave me tormented with guilt. My husband (and I) both realize that it would end the marriage, end of story. 

On the other hand, he implies that one snatch is the same as the next pussy is the same as the neighbor's so why bother? I don't agree that you cannot make any distinction between ... pussies. Does pussy have a plural form? I don't feel like researching that, in fear of an onslaught of viagra spam that would undoubtedly follow. How can one hole be just like the other and the next? The hole is part of a whole. Maybe it is a guy thing. Do some men see random sex as strictly a physical connection of body parts moving in such a way to the anticipated finish? I guess that may explain the weathered joke of how alcohol makes women better looking as the night progresses. And not to exclude women in this, do some women just want a dick for the night? There are sex toys for that, and inflatable dolls for the men, not to mention livestock if you live in certain areas.


So back to the "hole is a hole" thing. Does he means that because random sex is just drilling another hole, why bother since it would produce intolerable guilt which would end an excellent marriage?


I am still a bit confused by all of this. But I think I may have just figured it out. And to verify, I will bring it up again during tonight's pillow talk. That is, once I am through being, as a whole, distinctive.