Monday, October 31, 2011
Who knows?
There is something that I can never seem to figure out, no matter how many different ways I think about it. And that is, why what certain people think about me is so important to me. It's not everyone. It's far from everyone. But when it is one of those chosen few, and I feel like I've fallen short ... it cuts like a knife.
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I know EXACTLY how you feel. Does it stem from our childhood, trying so hard to please our parents? We do something that may not have sit well with them and we think they are disappointed in us, that may have been the first knife in our gut. Then it carries on into our adult hood. Have you ever said something to your own child who is now in the second generation of this "wanting to please", and when you give your approved opinion on something going on in their life, they just make a BIG SIGH of RELIEF? I have noticed that with my children. So, it's generational....we all seem to need that approval. I think that's when you know you really love or respect that person.....otherwise, why would you even give a hoot. I had a "friend" whom I was always trying to please, but never got that approval. It took me years, but I finally cut her loose and I try not to look back. She wasn't truly a friend, a true friend does not give you that knife in the gut feeling and let you sit there in agony wondering what she/he thinks, meanwhile going on peacefully with their own life. Be well HDBW, it's a new day and just concentrate on the people you KNOW love and respect you. All the others are just ships passing by.
ReplyDeleteDieter, you make a lot of sense. Much of what you said hit home. Thanks.
ReplyDeletetry to be the best version of yourself, not a second rate someone else. that way the only failure you're dealing with is your own high standards, not an unattainable goal held by others. to do otherwise will tear you down with no way of ever getting to that lofty goal. be yourself.
ReplyDeleteZill -- Thanks for the comment. Being myself, more times than not, is not too difficult. It's when you realize that it's not enough for some, that it's time to rethink why it is you care so much about them.
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