The Big Cheese.

He hasn't even arrived, and yet the confusion begins.

He specifically told my husband, numerous times, he is arriving in Newark, NJ.  When asked, are you SURE it is NEWARK and not NEW YORK, he replied yes, yes, yes New-Ark in New-va Jersey.

Good thing my husband checked online flight status moments before he planned on stepping out the door with our kids to go to Newark. Turns out, there is no arriving flight at Newark today from Rome or anywhere else in Italy. Turns out, Nonno is landing in NEW YORK at JFK.

WTF will be the tagline for my next 30 days.

Am I left holding the bag ... again??

The other day, I started out of the house using a Spice Tonight canvas bag to tote around my MacBook. My husband reacts ... "WHAT ARE YOU DOING!?" I ask, what's the big deal? We debate for a moment, and I can tell as his composure becomes more tense there is no convincing him that my benign advertising of an adult sex toy/video emporium is okay. So. I turn the bag inside out, repack my shit and ask "Better?"

Fast forward to this morning. I see my OTHER Spice Tonight canvas tote (they must have had a sale that day) as it was left in the back seat of my car, stuffed with a beach towel, goggles, a damp bathing suit and other assorted necessities for an afternoon swimming at the Y. My tweenage daughter forgot to bring in the bag. She also forgot to turn it inside out!

And what of "the best laid schemes .."

I remember as a kid, the hundreds of times when my father would go into silent mode. It was either due to a fight with my mom, or simply being generally pissed off about his current situation (job/bills/life). Sometimes, this would last for weeks. We would all be walking on egg shells, although I  think my mom sort of welcomed the break from having to interact with him. Then, always, there was something that triggered his re-emergence. A call from someone he liked, Christmas Eve, an especially funny episode of All In The Family ... and he would be back to his normal self, as if the snubbing of his entire family never happened. No apology, no nothing. Move on and never mind. I remember feeling so happy when that moment arrived. Looking back, it was fucked up. Yet, to this day, I love him to pieces. And I think I understand it, or at least can rationalize it on many levels.

Life can be tough, but sometimes marriage is tougher.

One of my more popular posts "Camel Toe As A Fashion Statement..." had some of my adoring fans busting my stones for being someone who never wears underwear. This can't be further from the truth.

(click link for redirection if reading the Camel Toe post interests you, as it should)

http://honeydewbranchweed.blogspot.com/2012_03_01_archive.html

I do wear panties. I own quite a number of panties. Here is proof of that:

It's just that my dog enjoys them more than I do.

But what I don't enjoy at all is saying the word "panties". I feel both childish and motherly when I say the word "panties". Go ahead. Try saying "panties" without feeling the need to lick a lollipop or to offer a clean pair. Hearing it gives me the heebie-jeebies, too.  When my husband utters the word during sex, my toes curl for all the wrong reasons. "Underpants" sounds old and ugly, though. "Underwear" sounds too practical, not sexy. So what can he say?  My friend has a similar problem with the word "moist." Suffice to say, if he and I were to ever have sex,  mention of "moist panties" would be a definite mood-killer.

As you sit there in your skivvies, I must ask you ... what word do you hate to say? 

Keywords and British Accents

My most popular (as in most viewed) blog posts are Married Blonde Looks For Dick and Camel Toe As A Fashion Statement. In fact, CTAAFS is my number one read blog post, AND those exact words are my number one keyword search. I am amazed at how many people google "camel toe". Here are some other search examples as listed by my site stats:

camel toe
camel tow (now, you KNOW this was a mis-google-guided nomad with an injured animal)
cameltoe commando
married woman mad for cock
honeydew horny (huh? sounds like a weird fetish)
urgent honeydew sex wanted (ok, now I'm convinced there is such a thing as a honeydew fetish. Who knew?)

Yes, I'd love to report that my blog posts are intelligent musings on important, thought provoking topics, but I am not there just yet.

On that note ...

I spent some high quality time with girlfriends over the weekend. At dinner one night, a bus boy quickly caught our eyes. He was the tall, Giorgio Armani model type with chiseled cheekbones, beautiful thick hair and lips, as delicious as they come. He asked me, very softly, if I was finished with a bread plate before he removed it, and on hearing those four or so words, his level of sexual intensity rose. A British accent! Scalding hot.

Fast forward to me back at home watching porn. I like porn, but after a while it bores me and I am looking for something new but not really sick or too violent. And it has to be free. So, that doesn't leave me with a whole lot of options. I think about bus boy Brit and decide to search "British" on the free sites. I tune in to a group sex thing. Everyone is speaking with a British accent. And I am immediately turned off! Somehow, "oh fuck me harder" and "I love your big cock/tits" said with a British accent sounds wrong. Maybe it is because all I have ever heard throughout life spoken with a British accent was either high-brow theatre, comedy or drama, like The English Patient or Pride and Prejudice. At one point, I muted the video. I just couldn't get past how incongruent the audio/video felt to me.

I wonder if other non-Brits feel this way? It can't just be me. Or can it? Don't answer that.

Lost In Translation Chapter 11 ... entitled "He needs a lot more than juice."

FIL: Eh ... I no understand ... my-a phone no ring. I need a juice?

Me: Juice?

FIL: I need a juice? My phone?

Me: You want some juice? We have orange juice in the fridge. (I have NO IDEA what this has to do with his phone...)

FIL: No! No! My a-phone no ring. It stay quit. (frustration builds ... volume rises)
IT STAY QUIT!!  (btw, he means "quiet") I need a juice? I NEED A JUICE!?!?

Me: (lightbulb moment) OH ... you need to ADJUST the phone??? 

FIL: Yea, yea I need a juice my-a phone. It no ring. Stay quit.

(Moments later, after I've adjusted the ringer volume ...)

FIL: Eh ... I no understand. My-a phone ring, what I do? I open and say Hello?  Or I push-a "send"?

Me: You open it, say hello, then press send. To send your voice. 

FIL: I push-a send? 

Me: Yea, just keep pushing send ... keep pushing send ...

Live And Let Learn

My FIL is back. Along with him came more cheese, of course. And olives.

He went to a cookout over the weekend. A large pitcher of iced tea sat atop a picnic table.
Close by, sat a jug o' bubbles.

After filling a red Solo with ice, he proceeded to pour himself a thirst-quenching cup of chilled bubbly. It was fortunate that someone stopped him before his first gulp. Or was it?

It's gonna be a long eight weeks.